The Journal

Notes from the work of relating.

Essays from our clinical team and contributors on the inner and outer life of relationships — written for thoughtful readers, never sensationalised.

What "earned secure attachment" actually means

You weren't born with the attachment style you have today, and you're not stuck with it. A practical guide to what changes — and how.

The myth of "good communication," and what to do instead

Couples are told to "communicate better" without ever being shown how. Here's what the research actually says — and a four-step practice you can use tonight.

Repair is the skill that holds love together

Strong couples don't fight less — they repair faster. A clinician's guide to the small moments that decide whether closeness comes back.

Why journaling works (when it works), and how to do it so it does

Not all journaling is created equal. The cognitive science of writing about your inner life — and three prompts our clinicians keep coming back to.

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